“Kon ang imo utod makasala batok sa imo"

Ebanghelyo subong nga Adlaw (Mateo 18:15-20)
Miyerkules (Agosto 14)

“Kon ang imo utod makasala batok sa imo, kadtoi sia kag sugiri sang iya sayop nga kamuhanon lang. Kon magpamati sia sa imo, ti magabalik ang inyo pag-ayuhay.

Pero kon indi sia magpamati sa imo, dala ka sing isa ukon duha pa ka tawo agod nga suno sa ginasiling sang kasulatan, ‘Ang tagsa ka panumbongon masaksihan sang duha ukon tatlo ka tawo.’

Ugaling kon indi sia magpamati sa ila, isugid ini sa iglesia. Kag kon indi pa gid sia magpamati sa iglesia kabiga sia nga dumoluong ukon manugsokot sang buhis.”

“Gani nagasiling ako sa inyo nga kon ano ang ginadumilian ninyo sa duta, ini pagadumilian man sa langit. Kon ano ang inyo ginapahanugotan sa duta, ini pagapahanugotan man sa langit.

“Nagasiling pa gid ako sa inyo, nga kon ang duha sa inyo maghisugot diri sa duta nahanungod sang butang nga inyo pangayuon sa pangamuyo, ina pagahimuon para sa inyo sang akon Amay sa langit.

Kay kon diin ang duha ukon tatlo nga nagatipon sa akon ngalan, yara ako sa tunga nila.”

Prayers:

"Lord Jesus, make me an instrument of your healing love and peace. Give me wisdom and courage to bring your healing love and saving truth to those in need of healing and restoration."

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Reflection of the Daily Gospel:

What's the best way to repair a damaged relationship? Jesus offers his disciples spiritual freedom and power for restoring broken or injured relationships. Jesus makes clear that his followers should not tolerate a breach in relationships among themselves. Sin must be confronted and help must be offered to restore a damaged relationship. When relationships between brothers and sisters in the Lord are damaged, then we must spare no effort to help the brother or sister at fault to see their error and to get things right again.

Saint Augustine of Hippo comments on Jesus' instruction:

If someone has done you injury and you have suffered, what should be done? You have heard the answer already in today’s scripture: “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone.” If you fail to do so, you are worse than he is. He has done someone harm, and by doing harm he has stricken himself with a grievous wound. Will you then completely disregard your brother’s wound? Will you simply watch him stumble and fall down? Will you disregard his predicament? If so, you are worse in your silence than he in his abuse. Therefore, when any one sins against us, let us take great care, but not merely for ourselves. For it is a glorious thing to forget injuries. Just set aside your own injury, but do not neglect your brother’s wound. Therefore “go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone,” intent upon his amendment but sparing his sense of shame. For it might happen that through defensiveness he will begin to justify his sin, and so you will have inadvertently nudged him still closer toward the very behavior you desire to amend. Therefore “tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother,” because he might have been lost, had you not spoken with him. [Sermon 82.7]

What can we learn from this passage about how to mend a damaged relationship? If you feel you have been wronged by someone, Jesus says the first step is to speak directly but privately to the individual who has done the harm. One of the worst things we can do is brood over our grievance. This can poison the mind and heart and make it more difficult to go directly to the person who caused the damage. If we truly want to settle a difference with someone, we need to do it face to face. If this fails in its purpose, then the second step is to bring another person or persons, someone who is wise and gracious rather than someone who is hot-tempered or judgmental. The goal is not so much to put the offender on trial, but to persuade the offender to see the wrong and to be reconciled. And if this fails, then we must still not give up, but seek the help of the Christian community. Note the emphasis here is on restoring a broken relationship by seeking the help of other Christians who hopefully will pray and seek a solution for reconciliation based on Christian love and wisdom, rather than relying on coercive force or threat of legal action, such as a lawsuit.

Lastly, if even the Christian community fails to bring about reconciliation, what must we do? Jesus seems to say that we have the right to abandon stubborn and obdurate offenders and treat them like social outcasts. The tax-collectors and Gentiles were regarded as "unclean" by the religious-minded Jews. However we know from the gospel accounts that Jesus often had fellowship with tax-collectors, ate with them, and even praised them at times! Jesus refuses no one who is ready to receive pardon, healing, and restoration. The call to accountability is inevitable and we can't escape it, both in this life and at the day of judgment when the Lord Jesus will return. But while we have the opportunity, we must not give up on stubborn offenders, but, instead make every effort to win them with the grace and power of God's healing love and wisdom. Do you tolerate broken relationships or do you seek to repair them as God gives you the opportunity to mend and restore what is broken?